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Our Children Do Not belong To Us; They Belong To The State

July 8, 2017

8th July 2017 by Helen Bennett

Our children do not belong to us; they belong to “The State.”

In 1995, my husband and I were accused of physically abusing our 14 month old daughter.  It was untrue, unfounded and in the end was proved to be wholly false.  The allegations utterly destroyed our family for two years.  We were lucky to overcome the trauma.

However, what the experience has always made me realise, is that our children do not belong to us (the parents) but that they belong to the state; we merely have “permission” to look after them.

The current issue surrounding the case of Charlie Gard is proof of it.  Those parents gave birth to that child.  It is crystal clear they have only got his best interests at heart. 

When a child has been given a diagnosis of terminal illness, then in my view as a parent, there is NOTHING that I would not do for that child. After all, what is there to lose?

Those parents have had their right to parent their child as they see fit, removed from them.  This has to be wrong.  How can it possibly be right that anyone who is not the parent of that child assume they know better than the parents. 

I weep at the thought.

Just because there is a group of people who believe that the child’s life is not worth saving, does not mean that the parents should be stopped from trying.

I support from the bottom of my heart the right of Charlie’s parents to do what they see fit to save the life of their child.

If Charlie lives, then no more needs to be said.  If he dies, then no harm is done.  As parents, I am in no doubt that anything Charlie’s parent have done is through love.

May God help and guide them during this traumatic time.

About the contributors

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Helen Bennett

Helen is the Baby Boomer founder of Human Reality and Bennett's Business Bash. She has strong views on... well, just about everything! Her blog will cover a range of subjects and aims to give an opinion. She is forthright, no nonsense, sometimes controversial and often seeing the humorous side to working in business.

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Georgia Bennett

Georgia Bennett is the Millennial daughter of Helen. She too has strong views on just about everything! Often they agree but sometimes they don't. Having a degree in Classical Civilisation, Georgia takes the intellectual and often younger generation's perspective on things.